One of you shuts down when things get overwhelming — not because you don’t care, but because your nervous system taps out before your mouth can catch up. The other one reads that silence as “you don’t care.” Neither of you is wrong. Nobody ever actually taught either of you how to feel a feeling, name it, and say it out loud in a way the other person can hear.
That’s not a character flaw. It’s a skills gap. And skills gaps are, refreshingly, fixable. This work is about building the real thing — understanding what your partner is actually trying to say, and responding to that, instead of the version your nervous system just made up on the spot.
Sessions: 50 or 80 minutes, in-person in Newmarket or virtual anywhere in Ontario. Not sure it’s the right fit yet? Start with the free consult, no pressure.
Couples counselling is a form of psychotherapy — how it goes depends on the couple and what’s actually going on.